早上八点出门，因为水城到盘州的路仍然处于封闭状态，在车上等了一会儿，漫长的路途到盘州已经十二点过。他们已经产检完了，我路边买 5 块钱的手抓饼带过去分他们吃。

然后带他们去奥园广场吃肯德基，不知怎么的，今天的肯德基格外难吃。甚至都没有鸡翅和鸡腿这些，点了一些鸡块，两个小龙虾塔可，还有其他一些小食。避雷了，还是德克士的手枪腿好吃。

姐姐一直没有去过水城找妈妈他们，昨天和妈妈说过，于是吃完肯德基我就送姐姐他们去水城了。（就因为这件事后来成为了妈妈和大嫂之间的一小点矛盾，害）

然后刚好得知飞哥回来，他叫我去他家玩。坐上了公交，在城门洞买了两件水，他和他哥哥来接我。飞哥带我逛了逛他家门口的玉带河公园，蚊子实在是多。我有些不大喜欢逛公园，我比较喜欢和自然有交互的活动，单单漫步在自然中我觉得并没有啥交互。

飞哥一家非常的干净整洁，飞哥的性格受家庭影响非常大。他们一家都非常和蔼，但有些不善言谈，不过这正是我由 i 变 e 的场合。

——补充于 2025 年 8 月 19 日

I used too little oil for frying the chicken, so the meat didn’t dry out enough. I overlooked the saltiness of the fermented bean paste, which led to oversalting.

I accidentally set the rice cooker to “keep warm” instead of “cook,” so I took the opportunity to fry a potato and mix it in. I continued stir-frying the chicken over low heat, and by adding the potato, the spicy chicken dish turned into a dry pot chicken with potatoes.

The potato helped balance out the saltiness, so it turned out fairly successful.

18:34 Taking Notes Can Improve Focus

Clear and logical notes have a creative aspect to them, providing a certain level of positive feedback that helps enhance concentration.

Sometimes, impatience makes the process feel slow, but remember: slow is fast.

22:36 Learning to Use GeoGebra

Today, I had a need for drawing graphs. I had always used matplotlib before, but today I realized that for simple calculations and plotting, GeoGebra is incredibly convenient. No need to write extra code—just input the function directly.

22:40 Mom Feels Like She’s Good at Nothing

Mom came to Shuicheng to help my brother and sister-in-law take care of their child. Differences in opinions often arise over small things, like what the child should eat or whether they should wear more or less clothing. Mom has always been the type to endure in silence, and it seems she can’t assert any of her own opinions here. This has led her to feel unacknowledged. During the day, when the child’s parents are at work, she feels heartbroken seeing the child uncomfortable.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts often stem from these trivial matters, with one side usually feeling wronged. I believe people should be on equal footing. Mom isn’t just a machine that follows orders—she’s a woman with rich experience as an elder. I want to encourage her to fight for her right to speak, even if it leads to unpleasant consequences.

I want her to communicate with my brother and sister-in-law: their roles are the same—they are both caregivers and guardians of the baby. They should have equal authority and be able to make decisions based on their own judgment during their respective caregiving times. Others, when not in a position to supervise, should also trust the person currently responsible for caregiving.

After discussing it with Huanhuan, I realized communication is quite difficult, especially when people are biased or unwilling to engage. Facing the conflict head-on and standing up for one’s rights is actually the easier approach. Focus more on your own feelings and don’t fear conflict.

23:31 If It’s All Love, Why Does Conflict Arise?

My brother and sister-in-law’s love for Xiaoyu is real, and Mom’s love for Xiaoyu is real too. So why do conflicts arise when it comes to practical matters? The key lies in people’s biases and lack of trust in each other—both of which are foolish.

I believe raising a child isn’t all that difficult. Occasionally eating a little more or less, or wearing a little more or less, won’t affect the child’s growth.

On the contrary, the conflicts that arise from these disagreements may end up hurting the very people who should be close.